The only way to get past a breakup is to get through the post-split process. Some people can get over an end of a relationship more quickly than others. But no matter how slow or fast you can bounce back from breaking up with someone, the immediate aftermath can be tough to deal with. While there is no quick fix or cure-all strategy to getting over a relationship that did not work, there are healthy ways to do it. Here are just some of them.
Don’t bottle up your emotions
Bottling up emotions may seem like a good strategy to cope with all the unpleasant feelings a breakup triggers. But it is an unhealthy way of dealing with the myriad of emotions involved. You need to acknowledge and allow yourself to experience the different emotional states you have to get through post-breakup. You can either write about your thoughts and feelings or talk it out with someone you trust. Cry or be angry if you have to. Letting emotions freely through your writings or when talking with someone can contribute to the healing process.
Take care of your physical, mental, and emotional health
People cope with unpleasant emotions differently. Emotional eating, excessive drinking, and not getting enough sleep are just some of the unhealthy ways to do it. No matter how bad you may feel, especially during the early stages of a breakup, you need to take care of your health. Avoid overeating, going on crash diet, or just wallowing in bed in a constant state of despair. Combat negative feelings by focusing on taking good care of your mind and body. Focus on the positive things, write down what you think or feel, and get active. It may be difficult in the beginning, but it will get easier over time.
Keep tabs of the good things
It is easy to get lost in the cycle of self-pity when a relationship ends. You may wonder about what went wrong, what you did to ruin it, and many other self-defeating thoughts that can stir up more unpleasant feelings. While this can happen to anyone, you can take control of how you view the situation. You can acknowledge all the negative emotions and choose to focus on the good things in your life. Keep tabs of even the simplest things that make you grateful. Keep a gratitude journal and write down all the reasons to be thankful for about your life.
Do the things you love
You can either choose to wallow or get proactive in moving on. Do the things you love or pursue things that you did not have the time to explore while you were in a relationship. Use the time post-relationship to do the things that matter most to you.